New therapist - not impressed

As many of you know, my other therapist had to stop seeing me due to a conflict of interest with his employer. I am so sad, because I was seeing him for 16 months, and we did some excellent work together, he made me feel worthy and he did so much for me in areas that were new to me. I would probably not be in this world today, had it not been for him. To be honest, I owe him my life....literally.

The new therapist who he referred me to, who he recommended in the same office, is just not cutting it for me. I had my first appointment with him yesterday, and he is just too stuffy for me. He never smiled, never laughed, seemed just to serious for me... I have told my other therapist this, that I am just going to stop going to counselling, so now he feels bad for this because he can't see me. He said that I need continuous counselling...maybe so, but I was hoping it would be with him, not someone new who just seems to be there, but is not there really.
Not sure what to do or say, I am just not really happy at the present time with this whole thing of getting a new therapist.
And he knows this, because I have been having severe panic attacks over this all, and he has called me at home several times to see if I am ok. I know he really cares. And it is this caring that I want in a therapist. He is not happy that I am going to stop therapy...

what to do...what to do...any help is greatly needed and welcome

I'd give the new guy a few

I'd give the new guy a few more sessions before deciding that he just won't do. Maybe he'll warm up to you. Maybe you'll warm up to him.

I hope you don't give up on counseling....

Hey Flashback, The first time

Hey Flashback,

The first time I saw my current psychiatrist, I hated him. I found him rude, mean, and condescending. I kept going back because he did straighten out my meds and my other docs told me how great he was. Five years later, we get along fine, and I'm glad I stuck it out.

Good luck!

I am hoping that we click, I

I am hoping that we click, I am going to give it some time, my old therapist says as long as I am seeing the new therapist that he will check in on me every now and again to see how I am doing......I am just not sure that I can go into all my past pain and trauma with a new therapist, it was so hard for me to do it the last time. And I am still having so many damn panic attacks. I am seeing my doctor today to ask him for more help, also I am in so much pain from my motor vehicle accident that I just want to curl up in a ball and die. Seriously, I have never ever thought about death before until the last week, when my pain level has increased and all the pain meds and exercises and relation therapy things that I know are not working....no one should have ever had to go through so much physical and mental pain and abuse....it is just seeming so unfair....and my coping mechanisms are just not cutting it today...I am almost wanting to give up

Flashback wrote: I am hoping

Flashback wrote:

I am hoping that we click, I am going to give it some time, my old therapist says as long as I am seeing the new therapist that he will check in on me every now and again to see how I am doing......I am just not sure that I can go into all my past pain and trauma with a new therapist, it was so hard for me to do it the last time. And I am still having so many damn panic attacks. I am seeing my doctor today to ask him for more help, also I am in so much pain from my motor vehicle accident that I just want to curl up in a ball and die. Seriously, I have never ever thought about death before until the last week, when my pain level has increased and all the pain meds and exercises and relation therapy things that I know are not working....no one should have ever had to go through so much physical and mental pain and abuse....it is just seeming so unfair....and my coping mechanisms are just not cutting it today...I am almost wanting to give up

I don't think you will need to delve into all that again. Your old therapist should have sent your new therapist your records.

Flashback - it was a full

Flashback - it was a full moon on Tuesday and you are a very sensitive person and the added stress of this along with other stressors may have been overwhelming for you.

God is the best therapist. Smiling

Try to allow God to work through your therapist.

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