Serious answers only - I really need help on this

PLease only read and answer if you are going to give me an answer to my question - no rude ones

THIS HAPPENED AUGUST 9 AND 10TH, 2012. What do you make of this It all started when she asked me if I wanted to give away a coat. I was upset about that because I started to wonder if she would ask me to give away any of my clothes. I love every single clothing item I own and I am way into fashion. So when I confronted her she said it had nothing to do with my clothes that the coat was in the coat closet and I said to her last year I hated that coat. But then I pestered her anyway about the clothes. During the course of the conversation she said "I never tell you when you look good, and I never tell you when you look bad". This got me upset because I always look good and I confronted her several times on that. She would give me nasty answers instead of answering. Then on August 20, 2012, I said to her "it sounds like you are saying I look disgusting at times" and she said "No not at all" So I asked her what does bad mean" and she said "I was just giving you an example, but you do have to admit if I told you one day you look good the next day if I didnt say anything you would ask me why" and I said "Probably" and then "I said what do you mean by bad" and she replied "Well arent there some days you look better then others" and I said "I look good all the time" and she said "I know there are times that I dont look good - my hair doesnt look right, my face doesnt look right" so I said "oh you are talking about that, you arent talking about clothes" and she retorted "I mean the overall appearance"

UPDATE THEN ON DECEMBER 20, 2012 SHE telephoned me from work and I asked her "Dont get mad but where you including my clothes" and she said "ABSOLUTELY NOT" and even when I picked her up at 3PM (my time) I asked her if she knew what I meant and she told me she knew exactly what I was asking. So then I accepted her final answer.

However, yesterday up until today I started to obsess about her original remark and when I tried to ask her again about it she went ballistic and refused to answer.

My question to you: How do I get closure? Would you accept "ABSOLUTELY NOT" as her answer? HELP

I would definitely accept

I would definitely accept "ABSOLUTELY NOT" as her answer.

Thank you

Thank you

I would also accept

I would also accept “absolutely not” from your mother.

I don’t know how you can get closure other than just believing what your mother says. Maybe remind yourself of times in the past when you were able to take what she said at face value.

I know if my husband says I look nice today I don’t ask him why he didn’t think I looked nice yesterday; although, I may in the future. Evil

Thanks. I will definitely do

Thanks. I will definitely do this or at least try to do this. I like your sense of humor when you said "although, I may in the future."

Lover, my advice to you would

Lover, my advice to you would be to not obsess so much. Furthermore if you find yourself needing "closure" on something as small as this, then you really, truly DESPERATELY need to find other ways to spend your time.

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