What Do You Do When....

For the last several years, we've exchanged gifts with another couple. They began the tradition and it was a good idea so we agreed.

In early December, we sent a gift certificate to a shop they said they liked. In the past, we've send items from the shop, as well as a catalogue. As they sent us gift certificates, we though they would appreciate the same in return so they could purchase what they liked.

Normally, we get in touch with each other after the holiday. You know, thank you cards and general discussion about the season.

As of today, we've heard nothing from them. They are in town and have been for some time. As far as we know, nothing sad happened in their family so we just don't understand the lack of response.

We aren't looking for a thank you. We are concerned the certificate was lost in the mail.

Perhaps if someone else received it by mistake, they will be able to use it.

What do you do in these types of situations? How in the heck do you approach someone and ask if they received your gift? Do you just say 'whatever' and wait and see if they ever mention it or?

Awkward. I never know what

Awkward. I never know what to do in these situations either. I'll be interested in reading the responses.

At my workplace, they have little showers for people getting married or having a child. I was recently asked why I didn't attend one for a colleague who is expecting a baby. I answered that I was still waiting for the (verbal) thank you for the wedding gift (eight years ago).

rockygirl wrote: Awkward. I

rockygirl wrote:

Awkward. I never know what to do in these situations either. I'll be interested in reading the responses.

At my workplace, they have little showers for people getting married or having a child. I was recently asked why I didn't attend one for a colleague who is expecting a baby. I answered that I was still waiting for the (verbal) thank you for the wedding gift (eight years ago).

WHAT? Eight years?

Possible future gifts for this person:

thank you cards and a book on beginning etiquette

I wouldn't have attended either.

I've decided to put it all

I've decided to put it all down to indifference.

Indifference is epidemic. It's spreading in spite of there being a cure.

Will you be indifferent today?

I have been known to say

I have been known to say something like "I had trouble with delivery of some of my Christmas items and I wanted to confirm that mine arrived at YOUR house." I have chronic non thankers in my family - I still send the gift, still confirm delivery and they have yet to get the hint. It might have truly been lost in the mail and it would be a shame to impact a longstanding relationship.

Woodland Minas wrote: I have

Woodland Minas wrote:

I have been known to say something like "I had trouble with delivery of some of my Christmas items and I wanted to confirm that mine arrived at YOUR house." I have chronic non thankers in my family - I still send the gift, still confirm delivery and they have yet to get the hint. It might have truly been lost in the mail and it would be a shame to impact a longstanding relationship.

I actually figured out a way to ask without asking....lol

I mentioned something about the shop and we will see if there is a response.

I do like your idea. I will use it in the future. Thanks!

Give them a call and ask. If

Give them a call and ask. If they got it and have forgotten to say 'thank you', then this will be their chance. If they haven't gotten it, then your call will let them know that they were not been forgotten but that the gift went astray.

Katherine wrote: Give them a

Katherine wrote:

Give them a call and ask. If they got it and have forgotten to say 'thank you', then this will be their chance. If they haven't gotten it, then your call will let them know that they were not been forgotten but that the gift went astray.

Considering the family members are also caregivers, we prefer to not put pressure on them.

The recipients know we would never forget them.

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